Posted by: Author | October 3, 2011

The Question I Hate

I really am starting to get annoyed with the ever-present question of how I work full time, write and also blog a lot. I was raised to believe that I can do whatever I put my mind to and that whatever I chose to do, to do it with my whole heart and soul.

I have a very dear friend that’s a licensed clinical psychologist who has told me on many occasions that every experience we have in life is a building block and the first things we learn and experience are the foundation on which we are built. It’s like a house or other structure. If you try to get over something that occurred in your formative years, it would be like yanking out the cornerstone of the structure and it could very well fall or change who you are as a person. Each experience builds on the other to make us the unique individual that we are.

So, as for me, I’ll continue to be the over-achiever I was raised to be. Just don’t ask me to stop being who I am. Like Billy Joel said, “I love you just the way you are.”

All I ask is the same in return.



  1. I know how awesome you are and I know you can do anything you want. It’s all about mind over matter and learning to work around the obstacles thrown in your path. Wow…does this mean I actually learned something about time management in my Freshman Studies class in college??? 😉

    • Thanks Danica. I hate having to defend myself for being who I am. LOL! And you DID learn something in that class ’cause I know you’re the same as me when it comes to getting things done.

  2. I know. I know. I’m one of those offending “how do you manage juggling all those balls” folks. lol. I’ll tell you what, though. If those other folks who ask are anything like me, then after they ask that question, they go back and get more of their own work done. Your work ethic motivates me. Thank you for that. 🙂

    • Laurie- you always say it in the nicest way- not in a way that makes me feel like I have to defend myself- not in a way that makes me feel like I’m some three-headed lunatic. LOL! I’m glad if my hard work pushes you to work harder yourself- inspiring someone is good, being likened unto a freak, not so much!

  3. I have to second what Laurie says. You motivate me, I find myself following you online. I’m looking forward to the day when we can meet in person. Until then look at most people’s comments on time as a compliment. Who was it that said the only regret they would have at the end was for things they hadn’t done or tried. You live life to the fullest. Keep it up, it’s a good reminder for your friends, we need it.

    • Thanks as always for your support, Lavada. It means a lot to me. I agree with whoever it was that said we need to experience life and not regret the things we didn’t try. I will endeavor to look at the comments the way you suggest. I guess I was looking at if from the other angle- life is all about perspective, right?

      I can’t wait to meet you in person as well. I know we’re going to get along great!

  4. I’m right there with you. I love when I get the, “how do you balance all that and still be a good mom.” Ugh, I might skip sleep, but my kids get what they need. 🙂 Okay, I’m cool now. LOL. Thanks so much for the invite to your blog. That was SO nice! Let me know what works for you.

    • See, that’s exactly what I’m talking about. The questions that make it sound like I’m slacking on my family. My kids get what they need, too. Even the one that’s no longer living at home. Lol.

      Yeah. Definitely you need to visit. How about the 17 or 18?

  5. Thanks so much for following up with me, Jillian. I’m so excited to be on your blog! 🙂

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